Dear Queenie,
My husband was killed in a car accident and I was in the hospital for several weeks.
After I recovered from my injuries I started talking to a friend of the family who is going through a divorce. We visit each other all the time and talk about our different problems for hours and I have fallen in love with him and I think he has fallen in love with me.
Queenie, I feel guilty because it’s so soon after my husband’s death. What do you advise?—Young widow
Dear Widow,
I advise taking things very slowly – and professional counselling to help you sort out your feelings.
If what you are feeling is love, not dependence on someone who also depends on you for mutual support in a time of great need, it will grow with time and eventually both of you will know without doubt just what you are (or are not) feeling.
