Dear Queenie,
My father molested me when I was little and when my mother found out she divorced him.
Eventually he got married again and his new wife’s daughter has small children.
Queenie, should we tell them what he did to me?—Estranged daughter
Dear Daughter,
Yes! The new wife’s family should know that your father could be a danger to their small children.
Dear Queenie,
I just found out that my daughter has never sent “thank you” notes for the wedding gifts she received 2 years ago.
Queenie, should the notes be sent now or should we just forget it?—“Thank you” Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
Either she or you (better if she does it) should send the notes now with an apology and explanation for their being so late.
The people who gave her gifts deserve to know that she received and appreciated them.
Dear Queenie,
I have a friend who has gained a lot of weight recently. She is still wearing the same clothes as ever and they are much too tight and she looks terrible, as if she is going to bust out of them any minute.
Queenie, should I say something to her?—June is busting out all over’s friend
Dear June’s friend,
Why not suggest a shopping expedition for new clothes? A good look at herself in a full-length mirror might be enlightening for June and you can try to guide her toward sizes and styles that she will look good in.
Dear Queenie,
I’m in love with a waitress where I eat a couple of times a week, but she won’t give me the time of day. When I told her how I feel she told me she is not interested and anyway she doesn’t date customers.
I kept on eating there and she asked me not to sit in her section. I don’t want to offend her but I can’t just give her up.
Queenie, how can I get her to give me chance?—Restaurant Romeo
Dear Romeo,
She has made it very clear that she is not interested in you and there is no chance she will change her mind. For all you know she is married or in a committed relationship.
Leave her alone, as she has requested, and look for love somewhere else.
Dear Queenie,
Lately I’ve noticed that my girlfriend tends to avoid kissing me on the mouth. She didn’t used to, but recently it’s gotten kind of obvious.
Queenie, what’s the matter with her?—KIssless
Dear KIssless,
It may not be a matter of what is wrong with her so much as what is wrong with you. Do you smoke? Are you careful about oral hygiene? Do you have some other condition that causes bad breath?
Ask your girlfriend about this and listen carefully to her answer.
