Dear Queenie,
I left my husband after many years of being married to him because no matter how many times I tried to talk to him about our problems, according to him our marriage was perfect.
After the divorce I began seeing someone and my ex decided that the only reason I could have left him was for some other man. Now he has told our children that I am not allowed to bring my boyfriend to any family function like our grandchildren’s birthday parties. My boyfriend is willing to be left out, but I know it hurts his feelings.
Queenie, one of our sons is still single. What will I do when he gets married?—Angry ex-wife
Dear Ex-wife,
Your ex will continue to behave this way as long as your children let him get away with it. It is up to all of you to decide whether – and when – to stand up to him. A child’s birthday party is one thing, but a wedding is a much bigger deal. You and your children, especially the son who will be getting married, will have to make up your minds what you will do about it.
