Dear Queenie,
I have seen signs that my husband surfs the Internet for porn when I’m not around.
He says he only loves me and he wouldn’t be mad at me if I looked at porn pictures of men but I’m not at all interested in that sort of thing. It just makes me mad that he spends time fantasizing about other women besides me.
Queenie, how do I deal with this?—Angry wife
Dear Wife,
Researchers looking for statistics could not find one man who did not look at porn at least occasionally. Getting “turned on” by such images seems to be a natural part of the male psyche. That does not mean your husband is doing anything more than just look.
Try to control your anger and not let it affect other aspects of your marriage. For all you know, when your husband looks at those pictures, he is fantasising that you are the one he is looking at.
