Dear Queenie,
My best friend is married to a lovely girl and I was the best man at their wedding.
Meanwhile, I was going with a wonderful woman for several years, but then we broke up and I was very much hurt by the breakup.
Come to find out, right after our breakup my ex started going with my best friend and now he has left his wife to be with her. I would like to find a way to give his wife some support and comfort, but being with her just reminds me how badly the whole thing has hurt me.
Queenie, how do I get over all this?—Betrayed
Dear Betrayed,
Keep reminding yourself that your “wonderful woman” had no compunctions about going with a married man and causing the breakup of his marriage, so apparently she is not all that wonderful after all.
Let your friend’s (ex?)-wife know how much pain all this has caused you so she will understand if you cannot bear to spend much time with her.
But would it not serve your best friend and your ex-girlfriend right if you and his ex-wife can manage to find happiness together? Because I rather expect that your friend and your ex will not be any more faithful to each other than they were to his wife and you. (“Oh, what a tangled web …!”)
