Dear Queenie,
I have been married for more than 20 years, but we are separated at the moment because something else is always more important for my husband than me and I just couldn’t take it anymore. He kept promising to do better, but he never did for very long.
A while ago, while we were separated, I ran into a man I used to know pretty well. He is now divorced and we started going out and one thing led to another – you get what happened.
My husband is a sensible reliable man and a great father. My boyfriend is lots of fun and a wonderful lover.
Queenie, how do I choose between them?—Can’t decide
Dear Can’t decide,
There are children involved, which makes your choice even more difficult.
Hopefully, for the children’s sake, you can persuade your husband to go to counselling with you to try to save your marriage, he will stick to whatever plan you work out with the counsellor’s help, and you will give up seeing your boyfriend.
However, if that does not work out, you should get a lawyer’s advice and arrange a legal separation with visitation, support, etc. clearly spelled out.
And you had better hope that in the meantime your boyfriend does not find a byside of his own.
