Dear Queenie,
My elderly mother-in-law lives with us. She has some health problems and her memory has started to get bad but she can still make normal conversation.
Some friends who visited us recently tried to tell us there is nothing wrong with her, but they don’t know about the kind of things she does, like leaving the water running all the time or almost starting a fire because she left the stove burning.
Queenie, how do I make them understand how things really are?—Caretaker daughter-in-law
Dear Daughter-in-law,
Probably they will not understand unless/until they are in a similar position. Meanwhile, just tell them they do not know everything that goes on in your home regarding your mother-in-law. And you could show them this column and tell them you are the letter-writer.
