Dear Queenie,
My brother married my best friend and I was maid-of-honour at their wedding. That was about 5 years ago.
The other night I was eating at a restaurant and I saw my brother there with another woman, not his wife, and they were sitting at the bar kissing each other.
The next day I told my brother what I had seen and he admitted he’d been seeing this other woman for almost as long as he’s been married but he begged me not to tell his wife, who is still my best friend.
Queenie, should I tell her or not?—Caught between them
Dear Caught,
It is bad enough that your brother is cheating on his wife. He has no right to ask you to be complicit in this wrongdoing, even if you are his sister.
Your best friend/sister-in-law may already know about this. After all, this is a small island and your brother was out in public with this other woman and apparently making no attempt to hide their relationship. And if your sister does not know, she might never forgive you for not telling her.
Tell your brother you are not going to keep his secret and give him a reasonable period of time to come clean with his wife. Give him a specific deadline, after which you will tell her.
