Dear Queenie,
I met this guy at a party and he seemed like someone I’d like to really get to know, but we only talked to each other in a group and he never asked me for my number. I don’t know if he is shy or just not interested or was afraid I’d turn him down in front of all those other people.
Queenie, do you think I should get his number or e-mail address from one of our mutual friends and try to contact him?—Lady in waiting
Dear Lady,
Of course, there is no reason he could not get your contact information the way you suggest and give you a call or e-mail. But then too, as you also suggest, he may be afraid of being turned down.
He is probably on Facebook. Try sending him a personal note – not a “friend” request! – saying you enjoyed talking to him and asking if he would like to get together some time for a drink or a snack. If he does not respond, you will know he is just not interested, so let it go at that.
