Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend still keeps in touch with his ex-girlfriends and helps them out with things like taking care of their pets when they go away, or fixing things in their homes. On the other hand, I have one ex-husband and we have a daughter who lives with me and visits her father quite often.
I have never said anything to my boyfriend about his exes, but when my daughter wanted to invite her father to her birthday party with our family my boyfriend had a fit. He said my ex isn’t part of my family anymore.
Queenie, what do you say?—Caught in the middle
Dear Caught,
I say it was your daughter’s party and her father is still part of her family, even though he is not part of yours anymore, and your boyfriend needs to accept that fact.
I also say you should be concerned about the way your boyfriend wants to have contact with whomever he chooses, but does not want to allow you the same privilege.
