Dear Queenie,
I just turned 16 and met this guy at my sweet sixteen party. I have had one or two guy friends before but nothing serious. I met him that night and since then, I developed this strong crush. After that, I met him once or twice and we got together somehow.
Now, he keeps hearing stupid rumours about me and most are not true. I have to admit that in the beginning I lied about a few things, but I am being honest with him now but he does not believe me. He lied as well in the beginning.
I keep telling him I love him so very much but he says I fall in love too fast. I just wish I can find a way to prove to him that I really care and I really want this to work.
Queenie, I know he cares, I can see it in his eyes, but how can I make him see how much I love him? Even though I’m just 16, I know for sure it is really love that I am feeling for him.— Crazy in love
Dear Crazy in love,
You just turned 16. You have not had a serious relationship before. I’m sorry, but I don’t believe you have yet learned the difference between a “strong crush” and mature love.
You admit you lied to this boy. How can you expect him to trust you? Just because you say so? How can he know whether you are lying when you say you are being honest now? The fact that he lied too only indicates that you have reason not to trust him either.
You have met him once or twice. I suspect he is right in thinking you “fall in love too fast.” I also suspect that what you “see in his eyes” is what you want to see, and he is trying to tell you that he does not share your feelings.
Give yourself some time to grow up a little more. If this really is love, it will stand the test of time, and perhaps when you are more mature this boy will become more interested in you.
