Dear Queenie,
My girlfriend said she wanted to put on a birthday party for me and asked me what kind of party I’d like, so I told her about a surprise party my sister did for me one time, so that’s what she did – exactly the same.
Queenie, what’s so special about her doing just what I told her and not thinking up anything to surprise me?—Disappointed birthday boy
Dear Disappointed,
Did you explain to her that the fun was in being surprised? Or did she think what you wanted was the same kind of party you described to her?
Make it clear to her that for you the fun is in being surprised and you will enjoy whatever she comes up with as long as it is a surprise.
And be happy that she is willing to go to so much trouble to please you.
