Dear Queenie,
I’m getting married later this year and my best friend is my maid of honor. She lives abroad and will stay with us when she comes here for the wedding.
My problem is she wants to bring her boyfriend with her and have him stay with us too. She knows we don’t like him because of the way he treats her – he is abusive and cheats on her – but she thinks that will change if we get to know him better.
Queenie, how do I make her understand that we don’t want him in our house or at our wedding?—Disgusted best friend
Dear Best friend,
If you did not tell your friend she could bring a date to the wedding you can tell her the guest list is closed and you are sorry, but you cannot add anyone else. And you can make it clear that there is no room for him in your home.
However, if you refuse to even meet him, it may make your friend defend him more intensely, so it might be a good idea to at least meet him so that later when she needs it, you can be more supportive of her.
