Dear Queenie,
When we got divorced my husband got to keep the house where we always lived and raised our children, because it was in his name and he paid me out for what would have been my share, but I got custody of our teenage children, a boy and a girl.
Now my children want to go live with their father in the house where they grew up and all their friends live nearby and go the same school, especially my daughter who thinks the divorce is all my fault, but my son also wants to live with his father.
Queenie, I want to do what is best for them. What do you think that is?—Divorcee
Dear Divorcee,
Assuming your ex-husband actually wants custody of his children and is a good provider and a good father, it will probably be good for them to live with him in a familiar neighbourhood near all their friends and their school, especially as they are old enough to be given a say in the decision-making process. And especially your son will benefit from having his father’s influence.
But be sure to arrange to have time with them, as having their mother in their lives is also important.
