Dear Queenie,
My husband and I have a couple of dogs that I love like they are my children. We never had any children because I couldn’t ever get pregnant, according to my doctor.
Now that we’re getting older, I happened to mention to my husband how much comfort the dogs would be for me if anything happened to him, but he said if anything happened to me he would give the dogs away because he wouldn’t be able to take care of them.
Queenie, how can I rest easy knowing he doesn’t care about them as much as I do?—Dog-loving wife
Dear Wife,
Apparently your husband does not think of the dogs as his “children” the way you do, but rather as pets that need more attention than he alone would be willing to give them.
If you are not sure he will find a good home(s) for them if he (and they) outlive you, make arrangements from now for some of your dog-loving friends to take over care – and if necessary, adoption – of the dogs if you go before your husband. You will rest easier now and, if the time comes, your husband will have one less burden to cope with.
