Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other exclusively for a couple of years and I thought we were really in love, so when he asked me to move in with him I didn’t hesitate.
But things aren’t as great as I expected. He expects me to pick up after him and cook for him and clean the house all by myself, even though I have a full-time job. It was a mess when I moved in, but now he complains if everything isn’t just exactly right.
If I ask him to help with the housework or even just to pick up after himself he says I nag him too much. What with all the housework on top of my job, I’m often too tired to go out on the town with him, or even to be interested in sex, and he complains about that too and says I’m not as much fun to be with as I used to be.
Queenie, I’ve had about all I can take. Should I move out? I really love this guy.— Exhausted girlfriend
Dear Exhausted girlfriend,
You may be in love with him, but is he in love with you or does he just want you for a housekeeper and a “good time”?
Tell him how you feel, if you haven’t already done so, and that you plan to move out if he doesn’t do his share of the work around the house. Then start looking for another place to live. Let him know what you are doing and, if he doesn’t shape up, move out as soon as you find one.
