Dear Queenie,
I’m going to have my first baby soon and my mother will be with me all the through, even in the delivery room. When my husband’s mother found out she insisted that she should be there too for the birth of her grandchild, but we don’t get along all that well and I really don’t want her around at a time like that.
Queenie, is there some rule of etiquette about who should be present when a baby is born?—Expectant mother
Dear Expectant,
This is not a matter of etiquette, it is a matter of what is best for the mother and the baby.
If you do not want her there, have your obstetrician (or midwife) tell your mother-in-law that it would not be good for you and your child to have too many people crowding into the delivery room.
