Dear Queenie,
My husband drinks too much and I told him I wouldn’t have any children with him until he stops but he hasn’t stopped and I want a family.
Queenie, should I divorce him if he won’t stop drinking?—Fed up
Dear Fed up,
Not starting a family until your husband gets his drinking under control is a very good idea. However, that probably is not enough to motivate him.
Threatening divorce is a drastic step and you should not make the threat unless you are willing (and able) to follow through if necessary. Before you give him that ultimatum, I suggest you try to persuade him to try Alcoholics Anonymous (see Agenda, page 2 of this newspaper). And professional counselling for yourself would also be a good idea.
