Dear Queenie,
My wife and I have been married for a long time and have 3 school-age children. We both have good jobs and live well, even these days with all the pandemic and other problems.
The problem is my wife – who goes out jogging for an hour or two a day – is always too tired to have sex and I’m starting to wonder if she is cheating on me.
We are going for counselling, but it hasn’t helped.
Queenie, can you help me?—Frustrated husband
Dear Husband,
I cannot tell you whether your wife is meeting someone else when she is out jogging. But it is also possible that your wife is just tired of being a wife and mother and someone’s employee all the time and just wants some time with something she does just for herself. And/or she could be having some hormonal problem(s).
Has she talked to her doctor about this? Do you help her with housework and taking care of the children? Do you treat her “romantically” without expecting sex?
If the answer to all these questions is “yes” and there is still a problem, bring it up in a counselling session and ask your wife for an explanation.
