Dear Queenie,
My girlfriend and I have been together for about 5 years and we are talking about getting married, but she wants a big fancy expensive affair and I would rather get married at the courthouse and have a small simple reception. I also don’t think we need big expensive rings, or even any rings at all.
Queenie, why spend all that money on unimportant things?—Her fiancé
Dear Fiancé,
To begin with, the rings symbolise your commitment to each other and, while they do not have to be expensive, are hardly unimportant. As for the ceremony, that too is symbolic, but again does not have to be very fancy and expensive.
What is more important about your question is the fact that you and your fiancée do not seem to be in accord regarding financial matters.
I think premarital counselling, especially including financial questions, is called for here.
