Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend likes to go to a certain restaurant that I don’t much like because a long time ago, before we started going together, he had an affair with a girl who used to work there and everyone there remembers him for it even though she doesn’t work there anymore.
He still likes to go there because he likes their food, even though I have asked him to go somewhere else.
Queenie, am I being unreasonable?—His girlfriend now
Dear Girlfriend
If you try to control your boyfriend you probably will only drive him away.
If you like the food at that place, enjoy it and forget about your boyfriend’s past – and let him forget about it too. The only reason for not going to that particular restaurant would be if you do not like their food.