Dear Queenie,
My grown-up son lives with us and sometimes he brings his girlfriend to our house for a visit, but she spends the whole time in his room and never even speaks to us. Even if she stays the whole night she stays in the room she is sleeping in and he fixes her meals and they eat together in her room.
I don’t like the way she behaves toward us, but I don’t want to interfere in my son’s relationship.
Queenie, how can she be so rude, and what can we do?—Ignored parents
Dear Parents,
Your son’s girlfriend may be not so much rude as terribly shy, or she may never have been taught good manners.
Either way, you should talk to your son about this. Maybe he can help his girlfriend relate to you better.
