Dear Queenie,
My mother usually hosts holiday get-togethers for our family, but my husband and I just bought a new home so I offered to host the Christmas party this year as a combination house-warming party.
My mother just said I am not ready to host an event like that because people like to eat good food on the holidays.
Queenie, what do you think of that?—Insulted
Dear Insulted,
I think your mother’s remark was insulting, but perhaps you made her feel like you think she is getting too old and are trying to push her aside.
Tell your mother you are not trying to take her place as holiday hostess and she hurt your feelings with what she said. Then ask her for one or two of her favourite recipes and offer to let her co-host your party at your house – she can be the Christmas hostess and you will be the house-warming hostess.
