Dear Queenie,
My best friend is going to college in the US and met her boyfriend there. While she was visiting home on spring break she told me they were looking for an apartment together because she is pregnant and doesn’t want to come home for the summer because her parents will freak out if they find out she is pregnant.
She is hoping they will react better after the baby is born and they see their first grandchild. She made me promise not to tell anyone else, especially not her mother, about her being pregnant.
I see her mother quite often and I know that when she finds out about the baby she is going to ask me if I knew about it and why I never said anything.
Queenie, I don’t want to lie and say I didn’t know, but I don’t want to break my promise either. What should I do?—Keeping a big secret
Dear Keeping,
I think you should keep your promise.
It is up to your friend to tell her parents when she thinks the time is right. And if her mother asks you if you knew and why you did not say anything, you can admit that you knew, but explain that you had given a solemn promise not to say anything to anybody and felt you should not break your word.
