Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now and I’m ready for us to get married and start raising a family. He says he wants to have children with me and spend the rest of his life together with me, but he is not willing for us to get married.
I don’t want to have children without being married, but I’m not getting younger and I want to start a family before I get too old.
Queenie, do you think if I wait he will change his mind?—Want to be a mom
Dear Want to be a mom,
I think your boyfriend is afraid of making a firm commitment like marriage.
Your problem with him is that having children is a big, long-term commitment, with or without marriage. You should not have children with him unless (and until) he marries you (if he ever does).
So, sooner or later you may have to decide: Which is more important to you, being with this man or having children? Do not wait too long.
