Dear Queenie,
After I dated my husband for several years and then married him a couple of years ago, I learned that everything he told me about himself was a lie, from his finances, his former marriage, his job, you name it.
I’m trapped in a marriage with a man I just don’t know and his family is no help. They believe everything he tells them, even about me even though they know me.
Queenie, should I stay with him or get a divorce?—Liar’s wife
Dear Liar’s wife,
Professional counselling for the two of you, separately and together, might help you save your marriage, but if your husband will not go with you, go by yourself.
And, especially if he will not go for counselling, consult a divorce lawyer to learn what your options are. And if your husband knows you are doing so, it might just motivate him to go for counselling!
For what it is worth, I do not understand how, on this small island, you did not detect his lies long before you married him. Well, they do say love is blind – and deaf too, it would seem.
