Dear Queenie,
My wife died about a year ago after we were married for more than 40 years. Now I have met a very nice woman and I am thinking of asking her to marry me.
Queenie, do you think at our age (we are both in our 60s) we can make a go of it?—Lonely widower
Dear Widower,
Many people your age make successful new marriages, but it is not easy. At your age, one tends to be set in one’s ways and adapting to new situations – and relationships – can be difficult.
If you are thinking of marrying this woman merely because you are afraid of being alone, that is not sufficient. There are worse things than living alone, and one of the worst is living with the wrong person.
However, if you want to marry her because you cannot bear the thought of not having this particular woman in your life, and if both of you are willing and able to make the necessary changes in your habits, then yes, I think you can “make a go of it.”
