Dear Queenie,
My daughter is getting married later this year. She is planning and paying for the wedding herself and I gave her some money to help with the cost.
The wedding dress she has chosen does not really look very good on her and I think she may have chosen it because it was all she could afford. I would like to help her choose a gown that will look better, but I don’t know how to bring up the subject.
Queenie, help!—Mother of the bride
Dear Mother,
If a seamstress is altering the gown to fit your daughter, perhaps she can tell you if your daughter is not completely satisfied with the gown, in which case you could offer to help her find – and pay for – one she likes better. And perhaps the gown she has chosen will look better once it is altered to fit her better.
In any case, do not make an issue of this. Remember, “all brides are beautiful.”
