Dear Queenie,
I love my girlfriend but her house is one big mess and I can’t stand it, so we spend all our time together at my house. She even makes jokes about what a terrible housekeeper she is, so we have talked about it but things don’t change.
Queenie, can we make things go right if we are so different?—Neat-freak boyfriend
Dear Boyfriend,
If you do not belittle your girlfriend or expect her to change her housekeeping ways you can make things work as they have up to now – each of you has your own place and she visits you at your house.
However, if you ever want to live together you will have to expect to hire someone to do the cleaning and housekeeping, and she will have to expect to learn to live in a well-kept, tidy environment.
