Dear Queenie,
When my husband and I were first going together he was always there for me if I needed something. Now we are married he is always ready to help a relative or a neighbour fix their car or something around their house, but if I ask him for any kind of help he is always too busy. And when we go to a party or other social event he leaves me sitting by myself while he visits with everyone else and if I ask him to include me he tells me to stop nagging him.
Queenie, what made him change?—Neglected wife
Dear Wife,
Your husband did not change. When you were first going together he was doing his best to make a good impression on you. Now that he feels secure with you he does not feel any need to make such an effort.
When you need something fixed or some work done around the house, hire a mechanic or a handyman. As for your social life, do not depend on him. Get involved in local activities and social organisations.
Hopefully, when your husband starts to think you are not so dependent on him for help and socialising, he will become more helpful and attentive again – and even if he does not, you will not miss his helpfulness and attention so much.
