Dear Queenie,
For a couple of years I’ve been dating a man a lot older than me. He says he’s in love with me, but I don’t feel that way about him. Now he’s trying to make plans for us to be together for the rest of our lives and I just don’t want to be that close with him.
Queenie, how do I tell him it’s time for him to find someone else?—Not that interested
Dear Not that interested,
Tell him you enjoy being friends with him but you have not fallen in love with him and it is not going to happen, and he deserves to find someone who feels the same way about him as he feels about her, so it is time for both of you to move on.
He probably will not like hearing all this and may not be willing to accept it at first, but it will be better for both of you in the long run if you make this decision and stick to it.
