Dear Queenie,
A friend invited me to a birthday party at a restaurant for another friend of ours and at the end the waiter brought us a bill for our food. We had assumed that the one who invited us was the host and would be the one who paid.
Queenie, shouldn’t they have told us ahead of time that we would have to pay our own way, so that we could be properly prepared?—Offended non-guest
Dear Non-guest,
Of course they should have, but too many people do not behave as they should.
When issuing such an invitation, one should make it clear at that time that the “guests” will be expected to pay their own way.
And when receiving such an invitation it is a good idea to ask who will be picking up the bill.
