Dear Queenie,
My father died many years ago and my mother died last year. As their oldest child I arranged her funeral and paid for it.
Queenie, I haven’t heard anything from any of my brothers and sisters since the funeral, not to offer to help pay for it or even to thank me for making all the arrangements. Is this right?—Offended sibling
Dear Sibling,
Did your mother leave you something extra in her will? Maybe your brothers and sisters think that was meant to pay for her funeral. Call your siblings, tell them how much the funeral cost and ask them if they can help with the expense. But also be sure to tell them you love them and miss hearing from them.
