Dear Queenie,
I am dating a man in his 50s who has a great sense of humor, is very good to me and is a good handyman.
However, I don’t know who his friends are because he says I wouldn’t like them because they drink and use dope. He has a bad temper and gets into loud arguments with people who disagree with him. Also, he doesn’t have a regular job. He lives with his parents and works part-time here and there and helps his parents around their house and in their business.
I would like to get married, but none of my family think he is right for me and he says he isn’t ready because he doesn’t know me well enough.
I love him and he says he loves me but he isn’t ready for marriage because he doesn’t know me well enough.
Queenie, should I stick with him until he is ready?—Ready for marriage
Dear Ready,
Why on earth would you want to make a lifetime commitment to a bad-tempered 50+-year-old man who still lives with his parents because he doesn’t earn enough to support himself and who apparently likes to hang out with drinkers and dopers? There are worse things than being alone!
And you are still free to look for someone else who would make a good life-partner.
