Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I don’t want to have a baby, but I can’t take birth-control pills so he always uses a condom, but recently the condom broke so I used a morning-after pill and I didn’t get pregnant.
The problem is that if I did get pregnant I would refuse to have an abortion. I really didn’t like the idea of using the morning-after pill but my boyfriend insisted. And with the condom breaking we are not confident about using them either. And we really don’t want to have a baby, but if I refuse to have sex with him I’m afraid my boyfriend will break up with me.
So Queenie, what do we do?—Scared girlfriend
Dear Girlfriend,
There are methods of contraception that do not involve pills or condoms. Talk to a gynaecologist about the possibility of using a diaphragm or getting a hormonal ring or an IUD (intra-uterine device) implanted.
Or you could refrain from having sex and, if your boyfriend does break up with you, find one who will not be so demanding, or who would be willing to raise a baby with you if there should be another accident.
