Dear Queenie,
My young adult daughter can’t seems to get it right with men. Her choices for the last three years have been almost destructive. This current relationship, just eight months old, if you ask me he is controlling, psychotic and abusive. Every time she tries to leave, he charms her right back to him.
To add insult to injury she just found out she is pregnant and that is his passport to her. Last month there was a falling out and he brought all her clothes by me only to want her back the next day. He went on a rampage destroying things in the house, wrecking his two vehicles because he could not find her. He put a tracking device on her phone and appears everywhere – doctor’s appointment, SZV, police station, you name it, he is there.
He is unemployed since last December for fighting on the job and can’t seem to find his way back on the job wagon.
My advice to her was: Child or no child, let this be your escape. As much as I hate it, I cannot stop you from speaking to him but please do not go back to live with him. Take time and phase out the relationship.
Queenie, do you think I am right or should I just stay out as he claimed?—Suffocating Mom
Dear Suffocating Mom,
I think you are exactly right, but you cannot force your adult daughter to take your advice.
If she is afraid to leave this man, or to stay away from him, refer her to Safe Haven (office tel. 9277, 24-hour hotline number 9333, or (721) 523-6400; e-mail This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or Facebook: SafeHavenSt.Maarten) for assistance.
And be sure she knows you will be there to support her when she needs you, whatever decision she makes.
