Dear Queenie,
My husband sends me lots of texts during the day and gets upset if I don’t answer him right away. He doesn’t understand how much work I have to do around the house or that I might be in the bathroom or driving on an errand or shopping in a store and not able to check my phone every minute. Besides, if we text each other all day, what do we have to talk about when we are together at night?
Queenie, how can I get him to let up at least a little?—Texted-out
Dear Texted-out,
Your husband is behaving like a child who wants his mommy’s constant attention. What I do not understand is how he can take time out from his job for all this texting.
Try recording a message like “Sorry, I am busy (doing housework, shopping, whatever) right now; I will get back to you as soon as I can.” Then reply to every other text from your husband, eventually cutting b ack to every third message, and so on.
However, if he has a problem with all this, suggest he get counselling to try to understand and control his need for constant contact with you. Even for married couples, there are limits!
