Dear Queenie,
I haven’t seen my girlfriend from high school in years, but I just found out she has cancer and not very much longer to live.
Queenie, would it be alright to send her flowers and a card? And should I tell my wife?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
Of course it would be alright to send the flowers and card. But why not tell your wife? In fact, if she also knew this woman back then, put her name on the flowers and card along with yours.
I cannot think of any reason your wife should object to any of this, but if she does, do not do it.
