Wedding Etty Ket

Dear Queenie,

  My sister’s daughter is getting married in another country next winter and we will have to get passports to go there. It will be an expensive trip and we will never use the passports again.

  Queenie, do we have to go?—Wedding Etty Ket


Dear Etty Ket,

  You are not obligated to attend any wedding, especially if the trip will be a financial problem. For that matter, if the COVID-19 pandemic is still going on at the time, travel may still be restricted and you may not be allowed to make the trip.

  RSVP with your regrets, and send the happy couple as nice a gift as you can afford.