Dear Queenie,
I got divorced recently and my ex-wife is already dating someone and letting our children get to know him and they seem to really like him. This made me mad and I told the guy to keep away from my kids.
Queenie, I know I shouldn’t have, but what else could I do?—Worried Ex-husband
Dear Ex-husband,
You no longer have anything to say about your wife’s social life, but you can explain to her that it is not a good idea for the children to meet someone she dates and possibly become fond of him unless she is in a serious committed relationship with that person. And especially she should not go to bed with any man when the children are in the house.
However, you will have to face the fact that eventually your ex may meet someone who will become part of her and your children’s lives. If they are lucky he will be a loving stepfather and they will love him too. In that event, do not make things more difficult for all of them by being jealous and possessive. I am sure there will be room in your children’s hearts for both of you.
