Dear Queenie,
A friend of mine has been living with a man for several years and they are engaged to get married. Recently when my friend and I came home from shopping we caught her boyfriend/fiancé in bed with her cleaning woman.
He claimed it was the first time it had ever happened and swore that it would never happen again. My friend has decided to forgive him and go ahead with their wedding.
Queenie, I don’t believe him, do you? Should I have a serious talk with my friend about it?—Worried friend
Dear Friend,
I believe it was the first time your friend’s boyfriend/fiancé got caught in the act of cheating on her. I also believe it will not be the last time he cheats on her if she stays with him.
Yes, have a serious talk with your friend about your concerns, but having done so once, let it go at that. And if in the future you are proven right, please refrain from telling her, “I told you so!”
