Dear Queenie,
There is something my boyfriend wants me to do when we have sex that I would find degrading. I understand that some people enjoy this sort of thing, but not me.
He doesn’t ask me for it anymore, but he still talks about it a lot.
I’m afraid if I don’t do what he wants it will make him think less of me, but if I do it I will think less of myself.
Queenie, what do you advise?—Worried girlfriend
Dear Girlfriend,
You should not have to do something in bed that does not give you pleasure, let alone makes you feel bad.
The next time your boyfriend starts talking about this particular sex act, change the subject to things you both enjoy doing in bed. Then suggest doing one of them.
