Dear Queenie,
My grandchildren behave beautifully when they are visiting me, but when their parents come to pick them up they start acting like wild animals and their parents don’t say a word to them so I guess that is how they behave at home.
Queenie, should I say something about this to their parents, my son and daughter-in-law?—Worried grandfather
Dear Grandfather,
Apparently your grandchildren have learned that different places have different rules for behaviour and are able to adjust their behaviour accordingly. If they are of school age I would be interested to know how they behave there.
To answer your question: No, do not try to discuss this with your son and daughter-in-law. They will take it as criticism of their parenting methods.
However, be sure to continue to enforce your own rules when the children are with you, so they can continue to learn what is acceptable outside their own home.
