Dear Queenie,
My mother is vexed because I sent my Dad’s girlfriend that he is living with since he and Mom got divorced a card for Mothers Day. It’s not as if I forgot my Mom, because I took her out to dinner.
But Dad’s girlfriend is like another mother to me and another grandmother to my children. She’s always there to help me out if Mom can’t make it for some reason, she always remembers us on our birthdays and Christmas – like I said, she’s like a second mother to us and I wanted her to know how much I appreciate it.
Queenie, did I do something wrong?—Mothers Day Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
No, you did not. It is never wrong to acknowledge the good things someone has done for you and your children.
Your mother probably blames your father’s girlfriend for the breakup of her marriage and is angry because you do not share her attitude toward the girlfriend.
