Dear Queenie,
My wife and her sister are on the outs and haven’t had anything to do with each other for many years. Now my wife is very sick, but she won’t let me tell her sister anything about it.
Queenie, should I let the sister know anyway so they have a chance to make up with each other before my wife dies?—Worried husband
Dear Husband,
Surely you, your wife and her sister have other relatives and/or friends with whom your wife is still on good terms and who are still on good terms with your sister-in-law. Surely at least one of them has already let your sister-in-law know about your wife’s illness, or, if not, you can arrange confidentially for one of them to do so.
It would give your wife and her sister a chance to make up with each other before it is too late if they choose to do so, and if they do not, the loss will be theirs to bear.
