Dear Queenie,
My mother’s boyfriend is an addict and has a history of abusive behaviour. He is not a sex offender as far as I know, but who knows everything about anybody? Anyway, I don’t want him anywhere near my children, but she won’t go anywhere without him.
Queenie, how do I protect my children?—Worried Mother
Dear Mother,
It is a pity to deprive your children of their grandmother’s company, but their safety comes first.
If there is someone who can protect you and your children from the boyfriend, make sure that person is present whenever your mother visits.
If not, sorry to say, you will have to cut her and her boyfriend out of your lives. However, it would be good if you could maintain some sort of long-distance contact with her, even if it is just an occasional birthday or Christmas card and/or photograph, just in case her circumstances change in the future.
