Dear Queenie,
I recently found out that my husband has been calling, e-mailing and texting a woman he was engaged to many years ago until she dumped him for the man she eventually married. He says they are getting a divorce and he is worried about what will happen to her.
I think they are planning to get together again after she gets divorced. He says that is not so, but I don’t believe him.
Queenie, how can I trust him again after all this?—Angry wife
Dear Wife,
Under the present circumstances it is only natural that you are having trouble trusting him. I recommend professional counselling for help in dealing with this situation and in convincing him that he has to give up contact with his ex-fiancée, or at least stop hiding it from you.
If he is truly interested in preserving your marriage he will be willing to go with you for counselling (I hope!), but if he will not go with you, go by yourself.
