Dear Queenie,
My mother and I were always close when I was growing up, but when my boyfriend and I started getting really close she started trying to break us up. When we got married she didn’t come to our wedding and now she refuses to come to our house to see me, because she says I chose him instead of her.
Queenie, why should I have to choose between my mother and my husband?—Caught in the middle
Dear Caught,
You should not have to make such a choice. Your mother’s jealousy is clouding her thinking (or preventing her from thinking at all!).
Try to stay in touch with her, invite her to your home occasionally, and keep hoping that eventually she will miss you enough to do so. Meanwhile, can’t you visit your mother in her home once in a while?
