Dear Queenie,
I had an argument with a couple of friends and stopped seeing them. Recently they have started dropping by my home without calling because they say they want to be friends with me again and they expect me to just let them in and entertain them. Often they come around dinnertime and expect me to ask them to join the family at the table.
Queenie, how do I get them to stop doing this?—Ex-friend
Dear Ex-friend,
Possibly your ex-friends are having money problems and are hoping for a free meal. If so, it would be charitable of you to let them join you.
However, if you do not wish to visit with them, tell them so – as politely as you can manage – and do not let them past the door. You may have to tell them more than one time and you may even have to shut the door in their faces if it is the only way to make them understand.
