Dear Queenie,
My father has Alzheimer’s and is living in a nursing home where they take very good care of him. My brother visits him regularly and keeps suggesting I should come to visit him too, but he is so far gone that he wouldn’t even know who I am and I just couldn’t take seeing him like that. I want to remember him the way he was before the Alzheimer’s got him.
Queenie, is that so bad of me?—His daughter
Dear Daughter,
This is a matter of showing respect for your father and supporting your brother, who probably is stressed out by his visits to your father.
He may not recognise you, but I am sure your father will feel the love you have for him, and you can remind yourself of happier times. Even if he does not understand it, this is your chance to give your father a loving farewell.
